Every day we make decisions that test our integrity and what we believe in. It could be as simple as owning up to an error you have made at work instead of letting somebody else take the blame.
When we make good honest choices with integrity in mind it feels good. Others can see this in us and we grow from strength to strength. When discussing with a friend integrity she said ‘it’s just part of our DNA’.
I think integrity is learned from childhood. We observe it in our parents decision making. We also see the consequences of good integrity. As we develop as individuals and hopefully maintain integrity we will find friends and people in our network who have integrity too. When we live with integrity it feels good.
When it is part of your everyday life it comes through in what you say, how you react and how you feel. It is just something you do when you don’t have to think about it.
How to Improve Integrity
Here are some things you can work on to improve your integrity:
Identify what you believe in and what matters. I think of the values that you will never compromise about.
Know yourself well so that you make the rightchoice even if nobody else is around. People often cut corners when they think nobody else will notice. It is about doing the right thing all the time. If the decision you make feels right it probably is. If you have to try to justify to yourself why you are doing something, you are probably listening to the rational side of yourself and not to your heart.
Develop your confidence and self- esteem. Mix with people who have integrity. If you have a decision to make and you don’t know what to do think of a role model in your life who has integrity and think how would they deal with it.
Research has consistently shown that people who have integrity are humble and well liked. They have many benefits from having good close relationships (Hodgins, Koestner, & Duncan, 1996)
Keep your word, say what you mean and don’t back track later
Be confident in who you are and stand up for what you believe in
You don’t need to prove anything – act with integrity and stay humble. You don’t have to stand on a pedestal to get your point heard.
What is mindfulness? It means slowing down and being aware of everything that is around you and living and enjoying the present. It is about living in the present without judgment and not spending time focussing always on the future.
Mindfulness is used around the world in business, schools, hospitals and within sport.
If you want to be more fully aware and improve the quality of your life and be happier mindfulness can help you.
My six tips to get you started:
Do one thing at a time. Stop multi-tasking and do one task at a time and do it well. Enjoy doing it. You will be more productive.
Enjoy nature, nature helps us to heal, so go for a walk, dig the garden, walk the dog but enjoy the environment and see the beauty in it without judgment.
Don’t worry about the future, live in the now and make the most of it. Happy people live in the present.
Listen actively, so when talking to someone, listen to what they are saying and don’t let your mind wander to what you need to do next. Be present and enjoy your conversation. The small things can make a huge difference to other people’s lives and your own too.
Eat slowly and enjoy your food
Spend 5 minutes every day sitting quietly and doing nothing, clear your mind and enjoy the peace.
Live slowly and stop rushing around, as you live more slowly you will become more aware of what is going on around you.
Much has been written about mindfulness and the benefits to individuals are huge in terms of health, feeling less stressed etc. Read about it and see if it feels right for you.
I live mindfully and it has changed the way I think, the way I live and my view of life.
If you want help to live more mindfully and make life changes and you think having your own coach will help then contact me
We all want to be happy, and our lives to be filled with happiness and laughter. If we are not content with our lives now we often have a goal for the future and we believe that happiness will come when we get that goal.
The majority of people are always searching for happiness.
Happiness will not come when you reach your goal. Happiness is right here now in front of you, it’s in the everyday things you do, the people you meet, your environment.
Why are so many people searching for happiness and not seeing it? Happiness is a state of mind and it is how you view life. Stop searching for happiness and start making your own happiness.
My tips for being happy?
Have a positive mindset and look at the glass half-full instead of half-empty.
Ring a friend you haven’t seen in a long time
See the good around you – it is there around all of us, appreciate nature
Set aside your ego and stop trying to control things that you have no control over
Make a point of doing things that you really love, going for a walk, reading etc. whatever you like
Keeping away from negative people
Not getting involved in negative conversations – walking away from them or trying to change them to be more positive
Doing something good for somebody every day
Look for the good in everything you do
Eat a balanced diet and exercise regularly
Being happy is a continual process and you always need to work on it, it is life enhancing and will make a huge difference to your life and those around you.
Start now and make a note of what makes you happy now!